Why am I single? A lot asks this question of people, but the answer lies within them. It is normal to overthink why you are single, while most of your friends create the fantastic moments of their lives with their loved ones. It is okay to find that “right person,” but you don’t have to feel inferior or inadequate about yourself if you don’t have any.
Relationships are beautiful when it’s healthy means when you and your partner share a mature bond when you both try to understand each other more than anyone else does. When you are with just the right person, everything feels beautiful and refreshing; you both try to understand each other’s space, adapt their behavior, habits, and lot more.
Whereas, dating with wrong intentions or dating the wrong person can lead to a miserable life, you will then be bound to make decisions according to them more often rather than making decisions by prioritizing your needs and demands.
Many people perceive the idea that being with anyone is better than being alone. They end up in less-than-perfect relationships that, far from making them happy, actually make them miserable.
So before cribbing about “why am I single?” you should instead give yourself some time and think exactly what type of person you are and why you need a relationship because this decision is critical as it is going to make or break your many life decisions.
7 Reasons Why People Stay Single
Now if we talk about being single, it is not the case that every single person has not found any person yet but it could b the other way around maybe that person is very demanding, or the person has issues like-
Not met “Mr. right/ /Miss right” till nowokay, I know you have heard about this many times, and now you might not want to believe this, but it is accurate, and I know it is very frustrating for you to listen to this again and again now but truth to be told.
You’re yet to cross the ways with the perfect, the right for your soul!
And that’s okay because at least you are assured that you’ll come face-to-face with the right person sooner or later.
Patience is a virtue!
I know how annoying that sounds, but it’s true.
Might have Different Priorities–
It is normal and a valid reason if you have your career prioritized. Because of that, you never really thought of being into a relationship.
You must have tried many relationships, but they didn’t work out because romance only is’ not vital for your happiness. You might have chosen to put your career first. MAYBE, RIGHT?
Or, instead of your career, it might have been a hobby or your passion, your desire to travel, or even your friends and family that have always come first for you.
And that’s fantastic, and there is absolutely nothing to worry about. You should be proud of yourself that you can stand alone and stand firm.
You’re too Picky
This may be the culprit if you’re repeatedly told: “you’re too picky.” But what does it mean? Isn’t it good to be picky? After all, we’re choosing someone to commit to and spend most of our time with.
However, there’s a fine line between being selective and being picky. Selective people judge potential partners based on their levels of compatibility and chemistry with them. On the other hand, particular people try to fulfill unrealistic expectations, which can be a hurdle in their relationships.
For example, they might eliminate a potential partner because they don’t like their accent or dress up. And then you need a reality check. There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect person,’ everyone will have some issues that may seem strange to you, and you might feel difficult to adjust to those issues.
Don’t worry about the little things; they’re meaningless because they do not affect someone’s ability to be the right partner. Eliminate potential candidates because you don’t click with them, don’t worry about the trivial aspects of their being. Be selective, but don’t be TOO PICKY.
- Your Self-Esteem is too High
If you are too much obsessed with yourself. While choosing a partner, you think that they are not capable enough for you or you might have that feeling that you deserve better, and I am pretty sure that no one would ever admit to this, but most of the people have this trait, and they are unaware.
But if you have this issue, it’s essential to solve this issue, and for that, you need to INTROSPECT.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to find out if this is the issue, and remember, we’re brutally honest with ourselves.
Do you think your purpose in life is above other peoples? Are you convinced that your road to life is correct? Do you quickly assume that others are not doing as well as you are in life?
If you’ve answered “yes” to any of these questions, maybe you’re single because you have an inflated sense of self.
Your self-esteem is too low- You regard yourself so poorly that you assume there must be something wrong with anyone that takes a romantic interest in you. A common trait between people with low self-esteem is that they overthink immensely. For example, if someone asks them out on a date, they’ll wonder a million things such as, “why would they want to date me?” “What do they want from me?” “Is this a prank?”
Moreover, people with low self-esteem are the opposites of inflated self-esteem because the former is quick to find fault with themselves while the latter is short to find a spot with others. Unfortunately, your low self-esteem may be pushing away good potential relationship candidates. There isn’t a quick fix for this because building confidence is a long and bumpy road. Nevertheless, always remind yourself that everyone deserves to be loved.
There aren’t many fish in your particular sea.
Maybe most of your friends are coupled up or married and don’t have single mates anymore.
Or Maybe you work from home or only have colleagues that are the same sex as you (assuming that’s not the sex that attracts you).
Maybe you live in a small town or out in the sticks, and there aren’t many eligible people around.
Whatever your circumstances, it’s essential to acknowledge them and think of things you could do to expand your pool of potential dates.
- You’ve been dating too much
These days, it’s normal to be seeing more than one person at the same time when you’re single.
But if you’ve been continuously dating multiple people simultaneously for a while now, you might have become a bit jaded.
You get to a stage where you don’t expect anything to come of your dates, so you go through the motions and stop opening yourself up to the possibility that you could adequately connect with someone.
If that’s the case, consider slowing things down a little.
Try only dating one person at a time, and when you’re with them, make sure you’re genuinely present and giving them a chance, and not mentally swiping on Tinder.
You’ve learned from other people’s mistakes.
You’ve more than likely watched your friends enter into relationships that you know aren’t right for them, and watching them suffer has taught you an awful lot about what you want out of love (and what you don’t want).
That means that you’re much less likely to waste your time on people that aren’t right for you.
You’ve been seriously hurt by someone you’ve been involved with in the past, so you’re not willing to properly let your guard down.
By putting yourself out there, you’re always risking heartbreak, but you could also find your life’s love.
These all could be the various reasons for your question, “why am I single?”. So the crux of all the points is that you need to look upon yourself and start thinking about your needs and how you want your relationship to be.
Tips on How to Fall in a Relationship
if you want to do something about it, then here you go:
- First of all, Stop being Negative- you have to be positive and optimistic here; try to avoid negative thoughts that you cannot do a particular thing. You have to be positive. Only then you’ll love yourself, and only then can you expect others to love you.
- Stop blaming yourself for every negative thing that happens to you. Trust me, you are too good and deserve someone just like you, with whom you can share your every little thing, so keep faith in yourself and wait for the right one.
- Surround Yourself with Positive People– now this plays a very crucial role in your life decision; as much you are connected to good people in your life, you will be having a positive mindset and a standard to maintain ( you will need someone with whom you can feel as frank and happy as you think with your friends.)
- Don’t Choose the Wrong Ones by Being in a Rush– I understand that it is not easy to be sufficient alone but choosing the wrong ones can make your life miserable, and that would be your worse decision because these are the crucial thing which is going to impact your experience a lot. You have to take care of everything while committing.
- It would help if you are Relaxed- it is not going to matter after a particular time because then you will have him/her with you, and you will be enjoying your life with them. You guys will be hanging out together most of the time; till then, you can stay positive and start enjoying your own company to know yourself more.
- This is not the END of the World, everything is going to be alright, and you will find your other half for sure, but till then, stay healthy and make yourself better for that person.
- Make Daily Plan For Yourself- I know its difficult to live in a world that continually tells us two is better than one. It seems like all of your friends are pairing up and planning their lives together while you make daily’ me – time’ plans.
It’s essential to stay happy no matter how you do that and how you get through this time, but never be pessimistic, because this is how the universe works. If you want better things o come to your way, you need to emit good vibes, you need to keep good thoughts, and for that, you good/positive people around you.
It’s your life; you are living it. You have your choices and have the power to make your decisions; never let anybody else’s decision affect your life decisions.